Bad Mouth
May 7, 2009It really doesn’t take much to badmouth others, to criticise, and to discredit.
It definitely takes a lot more to give others credit, to give them the benefit of the doubt; it takes generosity of spirit and magnanimity.
Increasingly, I find our youths, our world, badmouthing others so easily, with so little effort and concern, it has become a habit, a hobby. Especially under the veil of anonymity, behind people’s backs, on the Internet. We are becoming a very critical, cynical, and negative bunch. It really doesn’t take much to badmouth others, does it?
Yes, it’s fun to badmouth others. Fun. That’s all. For that moment. But does it make you happier? Or does it in fact make you and your own world more negative? We all have the license to speak and badmouth and criticise, by virtue of our mouths. It’s free. But perhaps, we would like to take more responsibility in what we say? To display more maturity and integrity in our words and actions?
Remember. When we point at someone else using our hand, one finger is pointing at them but three fingers are pointing back at ourselves.
The next time we want to badmouth others, think again.
I badmouth you. You badmouth me. Do we really want a dog-eat-dog world?
My answer is No. What’s yours?
“Dog-eat-dog world” is the superficiality of mankind. Nobody is free from sin. Who doesn’t want to live in a fairy tale world? Too bad it will never come true. All because Adam and Eve’s taste of the forbidden fruit.
It’s difficult to control sinning, without God’s help. Better to fear God, that is to obey his word, and trust that he will guide you.
Good that you talk about bad mouthing, the becoming norm of the society, if talking about this would make a difference in anyway. Hopefully it does.
Backstabbing – badmouthing whether true or untrue, is going on at anytime and anywhere, even during lunch break in school, and in the mrt, -people can talk so loudly and blatantly, like an irritating bee, seriously, all this ruin the victim’s reputation. I am sick of it. What does this show of the one who started the gossip? I think it’s a matter of self esteem.
I really hate to hear untrue and overly cynical criticism and stories, speculations of how people mistreat others, who hates who, who likes who, who does who..How is this fun??
Listening to such lies makes you feel better about yourself? Such people need to get a life seriously.
Why would someone speak truthfully, the bad remarks of the person to many others? To warn others about him/her? Or to gang up and bully the victim.
I think is both. I have been warned by a classmate about a particular someone who have been putting words in my mouth. That particular someone tried so hard to put me into trouble, or tried to push the blame on me. Well sadly for her, nobody believed that particular someone.
haha. That’s because her reputation was ruined because of her malicious behavior that kept coming everyday. And also my innocence of a non gossiper. I feel a sense of gratitude towards the classmate who warned me. Or else the next time, the one being eaten up is me.
Some of my classmates talk about their bad experience with people to vent their frustration. Whatever their intentions are, badmouthing gives people a slanted impression on the victim.
Eaten up or not, at the end of the day, what would happen to the bitches. U know…
[So much for a bad day. Writing as an outlet of destressing myself and a self expression. Really needed it now. Thanks it really helps. =) ]
Badmouthing, backstabbing, gossiping behind others ppl’s back, sorta hv alr been a daily process in each of our life.
Actually I guess human’s nature is good but there’s always ppl who’s trying to seek attention, breaking up ppl, n many others egs which causes all these to happen.
Think of a scenario where a fren of urs kept spreading untrue infos n telling tales to e rest of e ppl u noe. Logically as a victim urself n for e good sake of others u will warn ppl, behind the fren of urs, yah? So is that called or known as badmouthing as well?
Reality is cruel, only e strongest survive :)
you alone wont have enough effort to control such matter. ya your right to say it free speech. since you say that.. then why..? Just got to face it that there will sure be bad mouth or should we say bad comment? back or front… internet or whatever source it from.. whats the diff?
just depending on how you see it n how you can take it. or you’ll think your mistake is only to be seen and said by yourself? some do really.
at the first place why people bad mouth? whats the motive? can be, they want things to change for the better.. can be, to hurt someone.. can be both but.. don’t think people will make effort to hurt another for no reason.. unless they face people who hurts them from the start for nothing.
puff.. anyway, why let the bad mouth hurt you if you’ve done nothing? just don’t care.. dont have to be upset or even angry. there is not just 1.. lots of bad mouth out there.. just a part of life.
Nowadays, it is very common bad mouthing.
Just depend, you want or not.
Some bad mouth for the sake of fun.
“My friends bad mouth so i also join in loh.”
Some bad mouth cos of jealousy.
Some bad mouth intentionally.
Badmouth is a very simple tasks.
Just talk untrue, rubbish stuffs. Add a little spices here and there.
And it will be another story.
To them, they think that they need not hold any responsible cos they can just push the blame to so and so. And cos there’s no proof.
Of cos i do not want a dog-eat-dog world but do we have a choice to stop it?
No.
So what we can do is not to badmouth people.
There’s eyes seeing what we are doing.
And i believes in karma.
Still OK~
Sometimes we need it, too…
Why I said this?
Coz, there will be no life if we didn’t badmouth at all…
Haha, just don’t say BADMOUTH… Not so good
Just, there will be no life if we didn’t talk sth abt people…
Anything, just praise, or talking something normal abt people, etc…
Juz don’t be too extreme, or rather talking sth that hurts peoples feelings.
No matter what, control.
Badmouthing,backstabbers and spreading rumors is a very horrible behaviour
Do you know one rumor can cause a big misunderstanding?
Its easy to badmouth people but do we really need to do that?
I really hate those people who spread rumors and cause people to break up
I definitely do not want a dog-eat-dog world
Those people who like to badmouth people seriously need to get a life
As long as we have clear conscience and not be affected by those people,what comes around will come around
A song to share:
Back Around by Demi Lovato
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=73sWqW7Qjuw
Yes its easy to put it into words. But to practice it is near impossible. Its not just common nowadays, but rather, the results from several generations as the world becomes more and more competitive.
I know the word ‘more competitive’ does not make any excuse for such actions in human beings. I would put it as one of the justification for such change in the world. The mentality of ‘kiasu’, the mindset of being the 1st in everything we do had slowly moulded us as such individuals; putting others down while we step on their backs to climb up the corporate ladder.
Need we say more? It actually depends on individuals and their morals to prevent such actions from happening. And we totally have no control over what others were to say or do to the counterparts. What we can do as an individual is to take it into our stride, adapting ourselves to these environment and slowly move on from there. Realistically, its difficult to change the world. But what we can do is to play a part on our side and hope the world would be better.
Same answer – NO.
Badmouthing just shows ignorance and immaturity that creates unnecessary mental strain.
Don’t need it so, don’t do it.
I badmouth you,you badmouth me.This is what people like to do now. I always heard the friends beside me badmouthing other friends, but I cant stop them .Badmouth others are their habit , not hobby.
I suppose bad-mouthing is just an act of immaturity and jealousy and these I consider human errors which is a natural process in all human being deciding whether they want to go along with the flow or not.
My answer is a No.
But to prevent and stay firm being a No, will have to be more meticulously in remarks make. We may think that it is alright to say it but to those kay-po people, they just love adding words and modified what is said, which isn’t what it really mend.
Therefore the best thing is just smile when they are bad-mouthing around you or avoid. Rather be alone sometimes than be with such who may create a havoc in our peaceful life. At least this is how I avoid being getting involved unnecessarily. =D
Cheers~
The song i put suddenly does not exist cos the user being disabled so im going to put again
Its back around by Demi Lovato
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aTTqkRs-MWQ
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