a bad day
March 16, 2010i had a bad day today. i don’t like mood swings. i don’t like to feel vulnerable. but i don’t wish to be numb either. increasingly, i find that it takes a lot for me to be happy and takes very little for me to be unhappy; when really, it takes very little to be happy and there is little to be unhappy about. how much does happiness cost? i wonder. if you have it, will you please share some with me? on bad days like these, i just want to go to bed and end the day early. tomorrow’s another day. yours.
how happy are you, on a scale of 1-10?
happiness is a choice. you’re the only one who can make yourself happy. although we can’t always control our surroundings and the events that happen, we can certainly choose how we perceive them and manage our reactions to them. we really do have control of our happiness regardless of the adversity in our lives.
i hope you wake up to a happier day tomorrow… =)
Sorry I can’t help you, cos I find myself in the same situation as you. But Elvin, sometimes you should tell yourself not to “sheng zai fu zhong bu zhi fu” . Elvin, there are billions zillions people who are more unfortunate than you, I think you should not take it for granted. Think of those ppl before you start “complaining why life is unfair to you or things like this” cos to many billions of ppl, they want to live the life you are living now. Light up…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Mt7Nfq1CJc
A song for you… Be happy
I feel the same way too. There is no easy cure for this. The only way is too be strong and go on with life.
Try to have something to look forward to at the end of each day; movies and comfort food helps.
Dear Elvin, everyone has been through bad days. When we feel down, we find out what is the root cause of the problem, and try to solve it. It’s always better to talk to someone to get it off your chest.
I do think mood swings can be caused by biological factors. You can take food that is enriched with omega-3, it keeps your mind happy. (Cod liver oil, fish, eggs etc)
~What I think of happiness~
Happiness is a state of mind, not only involving the events happening in your life.
Happiness is having someone to love, and to help those in need.
Happiness is doing activities that you love, and being good at them.
Happiness is knowing that your day will not be so terrible (even when you think it is), because there will be people who are willing to share your burden.
Happiness is contentment, being appreciative with what you have, and not to desire too much on what you don’t have.
The sincerity of hearts when thanking God for the blessings.
(I think this list goes on…..and will never end. There are so many things to be happy about. Sometimes we just fail to see it. When some problem is blocking the happiness. I understand.
Please get well/happy soon, or else… your fans erherm… will be very worried.
I don’t want to ever feel sorry and sad for you. Ever.
P.S I’m going to watch Nodame Cantabile – the movie today! I’m SO HAPPY!!! and excited!! See you so emo feel like dragging you there to watch with you and my other friend. (aiya.. no la.. you tired go sleep) Going to vivo!! =D hahahaha… it’s a romantic comedy classical music drama. U can watch the drama series online. It’s so funny hahaha…
xoxo,
Get well —> HAPPY soon.
Not sure what causes you to have such a bad day and mood swings.
I myself do have bad days and mood swings. I will choose to be myself, be alone from others. It’s very irritating to have to entertaining people, forcing ourselves to smile during bad days.
However, thinking of the bright side. Some of the people whom you come contact today might bring you some happiness.
I would definitely love to share some happiness with you but right now i can’t do or share anything.
Think of happy stuffs. Hope you will get to knock off early and head back home, have a good sleep and tomorrow will be a great day for you.
Give you a big hug and smile and I hope it do make you a little bit happy. =D
Oh ya, when i have bad day or mood swings, Chocolates and ice creams will makes me very happy. Not for the whole day for at least last for a few hours.
What do you like? Pamper yourself today. =)
“You cannot control what happens to you,
but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you,
and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.” Brian Tracy
“The remarkable thing we have is a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.
We cannot change our past…
We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way.
We cannot change the inevitable.
The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.” Charles R. Swindoll
think positive .
This is test from GOD
Everyone experience bad day ,
Elvin, though do not know what had happened to you & makes you unhappy, it makes me feel sad too learning that you are not happy, very much willing to share my happiness with you if i have & hope i could share your unhappiness as well. Hope happiness can be with you…Wish to give you a warm big hug to comfort you ;P
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d6kjlqhjWzU
Hi Elvin,
I dont know how much happiness cost.. sadly…also got none to share… me myself kinda in depression mood everyday these days.. but I heard mixing with positive happier pple are good choices.. go find them or find a listening ear?
alternatively, u are right… jus go to bed early loh dont think bout it.. i can just go to sleep at 10pm on a bad day too, cover myself under the sheets and wishing i nvr get up the next day! hahahaha.. but I always would and somehow.. it should get better..
hope ur mood SWINGS UPWARD soon!
Cheers,
Ivy
Cheerup<3
“Everybody deserves a bad day once in a while.” John Osteen.
Everyone will had a bad day.
Happiness is priceless.
Happiness is to feel deeply,enjoy simply,to love and be loved.If I am having a bad day,i would go to the beach or think of someone who is important to me.
With loved ones by your side,that”s is ultimate happiness!
Be Happy, Be Glad.
Yes, indeed everyone does have a bad day at times. Nobody will have a perfect day every moment.
Think of happy stuff and place thoes unhappy stuff aside. Maybe this will help you keep yourselves happy again.
Have a good night sleep as well, a good sleep will make a person feel better and happy. Sleep well and tight tonight. Dream of happy stuff.
Hope you will have a better day tomorrow. =)
i find myself writing about and remembering the bad days i had, more than the good ones i actually had too.
i find myself ending my bad days usually in the toilet, on the toilet bowl to be exact.
and its always at this point and in this privacy that i remind myself and attempt to re-believe (after alot of self-ranting, angst, deep and sad ponders that is) that:
whatever that doesn’t kill you, just makes you stronger.
better day tomorrow, or the day after, or the day after after’s elvin :)
dear elvin,
i’d like to think that:
sometimes you see clearer in the dark; because its when its deem, that the torches shine brighter.
:)
i’m bad mooding to0..=X
i’ve been bad mooding for weeks though =(
wells, everyone will have their own bad mood days
it’s ok to b in a bad mood!
sometimes you just can’t hlp it, when things don’t go your way…
you can’t b 365 days happy…liddat will oso get tired de..
just absorb in all ur mad mood now, and u’ll b a happier person later! =)
someone ever said to me “why continue thinking of sad stuff if it makes you feel lousy? why not shut that thought and hit the bed if it makes you feel better!”
there’s no road and definition to happiness. always flip the coin when you bump into a situation like this, there’s always one side happy, one side sad!
dear elvin
this is the Han that you know aka an Elve…I hope han will join the elves too….ahem.
well, for me, we need to be contended and grateful that we are living to be able to choose our moods/attitudes. If we do have a bad day, go for a shower and tug into bed …we are not running away from the ‘problem’ …we just need to ‘stay away’ and come back to face it the next day when we are more rejuvenated. try to think of the positive things we have and that will make us smile….eg if i want to change my job, i will think of the push factors, and that made me more negative…if we try to see the pull factors, maybe, we will feel more ‘contended’ that at least i still have a job….
My turn to have bad day. Had slight fever last night and high fever today. But I’m happy I didn’t turn into a moron after getting my brains cooked. Hahaha. Tested alr. Just practised piano.
Unexpected to have fever, nvr been sick for quite long.
Anyway, I had a fulfilling time yesterday, apart from the fever. The show was great. Educational, inspirational, and hilarious. The acting is excellent. Don’t think most ppl can portray Nodame and Chiaki. Tough roles. Do check it out when you have the time. :)
What happened?
Would definately want to share my happiness with you, but unfortuntely i don’t have it with me recently.
Frankly speaking, we can’t buy or sell it either.
Maybe try searching for some funny jokes online to make u feel better? Cheer up alrite! I hope you are feeling happier already.
my friend once said this”快乐也是一天，伤心也是一天，为什么不选择快快乐乐的过一天呢？i hope this help since it really helps me :)
No matter how bad a day is, just keep all the bad to that day.
Let every new day be a new beginning.
Listen to your favourite music? Eat your favourite food? Play your favourite sport? Talk to someone?
If you want, you can write them down in your blog to vent out all your unhappiness, like what you did. =) Stay happy!
halo…Elvin~^^
u ar the BEST~!!!!!>.<
Don’t Worry Be Happy ya….!!!!!!!!!!^^
Add oil Ooo……..~~~~~
when u hv come 2 Kuching???
i hope~!!!=p
Gambateh^^!!!!!!!
same sentiments.
have a good rest, tomorrow will be a better day. :)
it seems like it’s in trend nowadays. prob life has become so complex to the extent whereby we no longer feel excited about life.
too much choices in life leads to unsatisfaction easily as well.
i blame it on the modernisation, the pace was too fast. or should i say, prob we no longer want to know our own limits and want to reach for the sky?
anyways, it’s norm to feel unhappy. you ain’t alone.
Forget to tell you that my high fever subsided yesterday. Went to see a doctor, which I get proper medication to cure my symptoms. (Bodyache, headache, cough) I’m on the road to quick recovery.
Likewise, if the above advice (all of which I find very useful and valid), can’t seem to work on you after feeling down for many days, please seek professional help. You could be suffering from depression. There are different types of depression and only the doctor can diagnose you. It is sometimes caused by the chemical imbalance in the brain.
Am aware of this, because I’ve read up about it.
Been there before, am very normal now.
Not as an extremely happy person everyday, feeling moderate happiness day to day.
Take care and God Bless. =)
Cheer up!
To me, happiness is priceless.
hmm, from Wikipedia,
Happiness is a state of mind or feeling characterized by contentment, love, satisfaction, pleasure, or joy.
Tomorrow will be a better day. :)
I hope you’re feeling better now.
Smiles! ♥
Share some ♥ with you! *big bear hug*
Keep smiling. :)
Because your smiles are the loveliest.
So, take care and smile always! promise? :]
xoxo,
Yuting :)
Hi Elvin,
Just want to drop a note of encouragement to you.
You are destined for greatness. There is a great destiny ahead of you. Emotions is something that is within us that brings us up and down like a roller coaster. Life many times bring us up and down, swinging from one extreme to the other. Nevertheless, one thing for sure, light always arises like the dawn, and all will be well in this season of maximum visibility and impact for you.
Happiness is dependent on everything that goes around us outwardly, but there is a real joy truly within. Its the joy of fulfillment. Awaiting for you to discover and encounter.
No matter how bad the day is, just want to let you know there is a Greater One Up there who is watching over you, He cares about you and He loves you very much. It is in Him that we truly experience what true joy is.
Praying for you.
Happiness is priceless,Elvin,you need to fight for your own happiness to be happy.To me,my happiness is being with the people I love,and being loved.I also don’t like mood swings,I also seldom get mood swings too.When I’m having a bad day,I listen to music or just go to the beach and sit there,looking at the waves.Anyway,tomorrow will be a better day.Hope you have good days ahead of you,Elvin.
hey elvin! is my first time leaving a comment (:
anyway cheer up! think of all the wonderful things you have in your life! God loves you (: all of us are very very very blessed!
Hope you wake up to a good day tomorrow!
oh. and i love the company of cookies and cream ice cream when i’m upset (:
hey elvin! i have lots of bad days. glad u only had one. everyday, all i think of is going back home & go to bed after a hard day’s work. unfortunately the next day when i wake up, the sucky bits do not disappear and i wake up to another bad one.
But then again the more i sleep, don’t i have less time to enjoy the things that make me happy? Maybe we should all ignore the bad things in life & just focus on and indulge in the good stuff.
I don’t know if it is frustrating to be surrounded by too much positivism because i’m to a point that positivism does not work. AlI I need is a listening ear to vent all my frustration to, no need to tell me what to do, how I should be content, how I can be happy. Just hug me tight and say “you poor thing, it’s been a tough day.” That’s enough.
Well then, you poor thing. It’s been a tough day :)
Hi…Elvin….
i pray tat God wud hold u Tight,
&ANGELS wud keep u in Sight,
not juz 2 make u fell alrite,
but 4 u2 have all d best things in life….
jia you!! Elvin…
i believe u can do it…
n congrats u for being in top 20 list..
1900-112-2007
haha…nice number…
all the best..
Halo elvin,
Life can give u a hundred reason to cry.
But U can give life a thousand reason to smile…
+u Elvin..
U r the best!
do whatever u think is right , sincere that’s enought.
:)
sometimes sadness also one of the happiness element after the period.
Hi Elvin! chanced upon ur blog today for d very first time! didn’t know u have a personal blog.. anw I really hope you’re feeling much better now :) I guess it’s just one of those days when we feel reli emo, and e weather doesn’t seem to e helping? anw tk heart that there r so many tmrs that are gonna be brighter than d 16th. though as cliche as it sounds, I really find truth in what d old folks likes to say – life is about being happy!so try to stay positive alright? ;) btw I really love ‘together’.. been reminiscing on e show everytime I hear ＂我们＂:) and I really love Tarzan’s char n innocence! :) n fails to crack me up whenever I’m down. ;)
hope Tarzan’s positiveness stays w you!! take gd care & God Bless!
cheers,
Angela :)
cheer up,
hope you’re feeling better now! =)
I had a bad day too…
Just recieve jess is leaving MDC soon!!!
I hope is only a nightmare but it cant be!!
I can do nothing to help her…
So SAD!!!
Elvin can u tell me wat should i do next 4 her??she is my beloved actress !!!
Wat can i do?
Wat should i do???
happiness doesn’t cost much….sometimes, its the simple things in life that make one truly happy. yet, you can never buy it. i don’t have the answer to happiness but let me know if you do. :) elvin, be happy! :D lalalaaa
To me, Happiness is Priceless. A priceless moment revolving in our life daily. I thought so that it takes a lot to feel happy and a little to be unhappy about however reality is still reality that we cannot avoid. I had some bad days recently and the feeling is terribly making me insane.I totally have no mood for anything and disliking the feeling of being vulnerable or numb again. It feels really lousy. I can understand that. However I know I still have to walk through this path myself. Hope is the only thing I can hook on to for now, Let hope everything would turn out fine and no longer will have the chance to feel vulnerable or numb again. People like you for who you are not what you are made of in front of the screen. Be yourself and bring back that lovely smile and believe that it would be even better this time. Take Care Elvin.
Hi,
Happiness comes when you stop thinking about how to make yourself happy, and when you start thinking about how to love people around you.
Hope you’ll find it.
its the different perspective you choose to take it.
i was always told that “what you think, is what you get”.
sometimes when we are overwhelmed with negative thoughts, down beat set ins more often that we can take it and that certainly didn’t feel good. Just face it because everything comes to an end. no matter what you are going through now, how tough you are going through, it will comes to end.
so, let’s end the bad day and see a better tomorrow! :)
PS: there’s always 2 sides to see things, so choose the one that gives you the best benefit, the best returns. :) :)
u can feel happi by being contented in ur life…. coz in life we r always not satisfied wit wat we have… we r greedy we will always ask for more….. n treasure the times u spend wit ur loves one…. like this u will feel happi n more positive…. in life there r a lot of ups n downs…. these r juz part n parcels of it….. juz stay positive n let it be natural n dun bother…. there r also a lot of things we have to learn to let go… coz if we dun let go… we will feel miserable…. when u r unahppi think of the happi times… the ppl ard u tt love u… naturally u will be happi once again…. :)
bad hair dayz.. so called.. arrrrgh!!! those are most dreadful and obnoxious… wish we can just flush them down the toilet in seconds, but haiz…
when u approach days like that, elvin, best thang to do is to rest n relax MORE..
eat sumthing u really enjoy, for example, i tend to eat lotsa fresh strawberries with cream, or drink my favorite drink – coconut juice, or simply go to a japanese restaurant to order a large meal, including salmon skin temaki, stuff like that
gotta learn HOW to cheer yourself up, elvin, cos nobody else will.. kaka =P *seriously*
i actually stop by to show some love, offering tons of congratulatory notes for making to the A-list *top ten*…. HURRAY!!!
keep up the great work, elvin.. love that pink and white outfit you wore for that particular foto shoot… u made the outfit looked really good!
*take great care of ya!*
Well.. I do not know how much does happiness cost.IMHO , I do not think happiness is quantifiable; it cannot be measured in terms of cost be it monetary or otherwise.
Some may argue that happiness can be derived from possessing material wealth. But I feel that happiness, is really about two things 1) it is in our minds. 2) it is our choice. Our perspectives and choice can affect/influence our happiness.
As you mentioned, “it takes a lot for me to be happy and takes very little for me to be unhappy” … then it points the next qns… why does it takes alot for you to be happy and vice versa? Was it because of high expectations or negative emotions like skepticism, being overly critical, anger towards our surroundings?
If this is the case, isn’t it really about our perspective and how we see things in life? Sometimes, we can get really caught up with the things going on in our lives that we unknowing push ourselves into a dead end. If we can just make the choice to take a step back, relook, rethink, look at things from another angle, perhaps things that really makes us unhappy may not seem so unpleasant afterall… so doesn’t that makes us happier?
I read about the Holocaust on my bad days. I force myself to watch war films and documentaries. I ponder about the pain of those animals who were being skinned alive and slaughtered. And I cry so hard, and realize my days aren’t so bad afterall.
i oso finding happiness. u found? can share where to buy?
but i still try n try to think abt all the nice things that i already hv. go eat something that u love? retail therapy? for mi i like to eat ramen when im down, den i feel happy (most of the time). if not will go shop for books that might brighten up my day. my fav chinese author Jiu Ba Dao. his stories r vry wu li tou, funny n +ve. (excluding those dark series that he wrote).
or, juz look at the kids, they are often vry ez happy, n could easily influence u when their smiles n laugher. or look at the elderly, n u’ll see, life’s juz like that. u noe when u get old, whether u r happy or not with ur life, u’ll show rather clearly on ur face? for sure, i wun wanna b someone with a sad face when im old. so shldn’t kp holding on to unhappiness. gambatte!!
Smile always! :) That’s what i want to say.
No use to be sad and feeling angry towards something.
Certain things are beyond our control.
If we can predict something, then there will be no accident.
No use feeling down or biased or sad etc
just be happy
i chanced upon this blog, came across this entry somehow.
happiness is around when you choose to see it.
when you’re tired, take a break, sleep it away and tell yourself i shall be sad just for today. tomorrow’s a better day (:
Bob Marley
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LanCLS_hIo4
Hi friend,
Depend on less or more attachment, it makes different amounts of happiness or unhappiness. Please be mind it whenever we are happy or unhappy. Don’t let happiness or unhappiness control you, you control them. The only way is “be mind in every second.”
hey oryior,
mood swings – u got 2 have it – for an actor itz all about mood swings – into the role – u dont have it – u cant show it! aint i hitting it on the nail? keep up the mood swings but be over n in control of it! some actors cant succeed cos they dont have the swings – i guess?
I speculate why that was so. Yes, sleep away your unhappiness. Don’t have to get too worked up by villains.
When pple r spiteful of u though u’ve never meant them harm, it is because they’re envious of your excellence, success or popularity.