choice
November 24, 2010are we the controllers of our destiny? is it really down to choice?
do we choose to be happy? do we choose to be sad? or are we just happy or sad?
do we choose when it comes to freedom? do we choose when it comes to love? can we choose?
do we choose to feel a certain way or do we just feel?
how much of it is a conscious decision? how much of it not?
choice is a deliberate and detached action; feeling is raw
is it really down to choice? or is there something beyond? something greater?
many things in life, you have a choice, you can choose
but some things in life have already been chosen for you, you can’t choose
you accept your lot, you follow the plan, because it feels right
choose what is right for you
& the only way to choose what is right, is more often than not, to follow your heart
in life
some things you have a choice
some things you have not
destiny or controllers of our destiny?
we are both.
IMO, we do not have many choices to make since the day we arrived to this world. From the minute u r born. Your status n wealth starts from the mark there. Everything had already been fixed. Even if sometimes we do have a choice but for the better of everyone n majority, we tend to choose the one that suits majority and not yourself.
Sleep early dude! :)
Listen to your heart and choose what makes you happy.
i believe we do have a choice. it’s a matter of whether we are strong/persistent/brave enough to follow with our choices.
yes, feelings can sometimes be innate reactions, but what you do about that is a choice. one can choose to wallow in self-pity or decide to change something, to be happy. conscious choices can actually override instinctual feelings and it’s not being fake or putting up a front. choosing to smile when u feel down can actually MAKE u feel happy (happier at least). (:
even if it is not up to us to make certain decisions, we can always choose how we deal with it/ feel about it.
so, make a conscious choice to feel happy! (:
I believe that yes, our life is destined..
Sometimes as we grow older we will need to accept our life as it is even if we don’t like it.
But i believe that makes us learn a new lesson of life, independence.
We must be independent to make our choice,
so..
follow your heart! :D
Right now I am not sure of how to go about replying. But what you wrote in this entry, it’s what I’ve always pondered upon myself. But thank God, I know the answer now. I’ll just share a beautiful poem that’s simple yet powerful:
“It is only a tiny rosebud,
A flower of God’s Design.
But I cannot unfold the petals,
With these clumsy hands of mine.
The secret of unfolding flowers
Is not known to such as I.
God opens this flower so sweetly,
When in my hands they fade and die.
If I cannot unfold a rosebud,
This flower of God’s Design,
Then how can I think I have wisdom
To unfold this life of mine?
So I’ll trust in Him for His leading
Each moment of every day.
I will look to Him for His Guidance
Each step of the pilgrim way.
The pathway that lies before me,
Only my Creator knows.
I’ll trust Him to unfold the moments,
Just as He unfolds the rose.”
Pretty much speaks for itself yes? It’s an Islamic poem, btw. I’m not here to preach but it’s my obligation to share this wonderful treasure. :)
Oh and if anybody has time do type this in YouTube search “A World of Secrets – The Believing Soul” it’s a wonderful well-articulated article about the state of mind. Just keep an open mind, and hopefully it will give you some wisdom. :)
Sometimes we choose to make conscious decisions
Sometimes we choose to go with the flow
Whatever it is
Always believe that life has the best for you in store
When time for the best has yet to come
Rejoice!
For it’s when you learn many of your tricks
To reach the best you can :)
i believe we are the controllers of our destiny. we made each and every decision. no matter what is the outcome, we should accept it and overcome if its a mistake =] only we can help ourselves. stay strong~~
I love this post :’)
It’s so meaningful.
So true.
Personally, choices or not, we follow our heart.
Well, that’s life isn’t it. why think so much and make ourselves worry for another issue? ;)
Just try to stay positive and happy at all times.
Life’s too short to be sad. :)
Goodnight! ;)
xoxo,
Yuting.
Indeed, life is full of choices..Every little choice we make each day, will impact on the future steps going to be taken…Each choice made, comes with your rational thoughts as well as your feelings towards the choice made..
Nothing is perfect, we learn from each choice we make daily..Just learn and move on..enjoy the choices made and accept the results…
Life is beautiful as we can make choices..
Cheers!
Xin Hui
I still believe in 命中注定
We can plan, choose and pick, but somehow it will still direct us back to the original ‘plan’
Be happy or sad is determine by your attitude,if you choose to be happy,you will be happy.Either way,its your own choice.Life is too short,stay positive.
Destiny decide who you will meet in your life,but its your own choice to whether let them stay.
Love is a destiny but its your own choice to make it last forever with that one person.
Do what is right and follow your heart
As long as conscience is clear,its all that matters.
I like this post.
I also agree that some things you have choice, some things you have not…
Or probably to sum it all, the choices we make are all destined to be? Interesting post! :)
The good things come and go.
The bad things come and go too.
Memories of both fade with time.
Feel the good while it lasts. Smile while you can.
And laugh out loud on those days. Enjoy it.
Breathe slow when the wound is fresh. Learn from the pain while the wound is healing. See the good in the bad.
And learn how to close the wound, and heal well.
Live the now,
Delving on both good and bad brings an unhealthy state of mind.
And nothing will be lost, because the good and bad will both come again in different forms, but both presenting new chances to feel good, smile, laugh out loud, breathe slow, learn and heal.
The good things come and go.
The bad things come and go too.
Memories of both fade with time.
Feel the good while it lasts. Smile while you can.
And laugh out loud on those days. Enjoy it.
Breathe slow when the wound is fresh. Learn from the pain while the wound is healing. See the good in the bad.
And learn how to close the wound, and heal well.
Live the now,
Dwelling on both good and bad brings an unhealthy state of mind.
And nothing will be lost, because the good and bad will both come again in different forms, but both presenting new chances to feel good, smile, laugh out loud, breathe slow, learn and heal.
those are really interesting questions with their answers overlapping in science and true experience in life. Perhaps it would be alright to think of all the things that we’re born with (strict parents, childhood, ect.) as pre-conditions in our lives, since everything that goes in adulthood is more or less made by our own decisions. As for decisions, there are the conscious and the unconscious, as people so often refer to them by. The conscious ones are the informed ones that we make, by careful weighing and speculation, by the observations and information we get from our surroundings. The unconscious though, is often of much more interest to ppl. We get make unconscious decisions in snap judgments, often with our intuition. There’s a lot of explanations so I’d better not continue haha. Where philosophy is concerned, as one as one is as happy as he can in this competitive world and with good character, he should be alright. I’ve always believed that a person, no matter what is bearings are, is a faithful companion of his mind. He can be happy and of course, its a decision made. :)
Hello Elvin,
some quotes pretty interesting..
“Whatever is going on in your mind is what you are attracting”
“you are a masterpiece of your life”
“You can begin feeling whatever you want (even if it’s not there).. the universe will correspond to the nature of your song”
“Shift your awareness”
“Remove stress from the body and the body regenerates itself. You can heal yourself”
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Destiny and fate cannot be chosen. Sometimes it is just given to us in the form of luck. We cannot control our destiny even and it seems like pre-arranged for us. Just like we are born to a family and we have a parents and siblings to take care, all these are destiny. But we can choose our own career path, simply to say, we can choose a job we like and work hard and be happy about it and as long as our conscience are clear and we never do anything wrong.
Just follow our heart, do more good deeds and charity. I believe one day we will be a better person
While we can control or influence our life to a certain extent, much is still controlled by fate. It is not easy to change our ‘destiny’ unless we do something drastic. By and large, we can determine how we want to live our life but to change our fate, I am afraid it is not that easy.
It may sound pessimistic, This is how I feel.
good just follow our heart and do whatever we want to do without bothering how people think of us.its our own lives,we can choose to be what we want to be.we have our rights to choose!even our parents cant stop us nor anything can hinder us from choosing.
My first time coming to your blog. Saw you with a very pretty girl outside zouk just now at the hotdog stand heehee. You are really goodlooking^^ Is she your girlfriend? Very compatible wor heehee. I like your blog posts, very meaningful ^^ Jiayous!
i totally understand how you feel :)
just want you to be yourself and happy, we juz try out best !
its our life!
i really luv ur post.IT really nice and meaningful.Be happy or sad it ur choice.destiny depends on who u met in ur life and whether if u are really competiable with that person.let ur heart be ur guide.do good deeds for charity.u just have to follow ur heart ,jia you Elvin ,hope u can win the best actor award and be in top 10 fav male artists in next year star scearch 2011.i really hope there will be one.so ,will u be filming any more shows other than “breakout”?luv ur acting.jia you,and good luck. HAVE A GREAT DAY AHEAD AND I WILL ALWAYS SUPPORT U.:)
No one else is in charge of your happiness. You are the CEO of your joy..
enjoy your life,Elvin and be yourself… =)
To me..
Life…is all about making CHOICES.
I CHOSE to be WHAT and WHERE I am today.
I made right CHOICES..
And wrong ones too.
Some CHOICES seem right…
But it all ended up wrong.
For that…
I am going to CHOOSE again!
Good night
No one can forced u to be happy ,sad.u are in charge of yourself .life is filled with choices.sometimes u have to choose one and sacrifice another.enjoy your life and be yourself.life is filled with chanlledges and we all have to face it bravely.no one can control u,only yourself.will always support u and I loved all their posts:)
Sorry typo error should be your posts :)hope u won’t mind Elvin.
If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is compromise.
happiness is a choice, isnt that what we always hear?
some other things we dont have a choice, so we label it destiny..
ultimately, its just how we label..
i totally agree. its both. somethings choose me.. and i have to just follow.. to change, it is only worst i guess. i dont know..
i guess.. destiny choose you adn is you to work it out.
just like tv choosed you and is up to you to work well in it.