essentially is about another being but too often we might have too much pride, arrogance, authority, and centredness in ourselves. Until we come to terms with that, we might not really know how to love.
theres love within everyone and everyone knows how to love. even pigeons on my root does.
to love someone you actually surrender your love to her.
the first thing is you got to love yourself before you can give love.
or we should say it the other way.. then your other could let herself love you. fall in love? people cant fall into love but surrender themself to love.
it is not that someone having all the pride, arrogance, authority, and centredness means do not know how to love. they just actually didnt love. their love is still within them. you know.. they just got to meet someone that they could surrender themself with.
when you love, you lost part of yourself.. and you know where it goes to.. ;)
Everyone has their own definitions of love. Being able to love or to be love is a feeling that one would love to have. It doesn’t only applies to human but also living things. Who doesn’t want to be love or to love others? I agree with Elvin’s post. Loving a person is totally committing oneself to him/her. Love might be a feeling that drives one to be a totally different person which you might have never known. Over loving a person might also leads to over protecting one to the extend of him/her getting easily irritated at the things that you do for them . So what really is best for humans!? To love or to be love?
Love don”t have to be complicated,it”s about the feeling between the two people who are meant to be.
The right person will understand and want you.
Love supposed to be simple and sweet,truly like a person,you wouldn”t even think about being arrogant or having the pride,intead you will protect and care for the one for the rest of your life.
I want to be with the one who will make my first love lasts…
To me, love somebody do not need reasons or characteristics…I wanna be with somebody who i feel blissful and happiness with him
I do not need him to be rich,handsome or cool:p
I just want him to be truthful,faithful and nice to me…
Tats is just wat i ask for for my love:]
You can choose to love someone who loves you more than you love her. Or you can choose to love someone whom you love more than she loves you. Even if both love deeply, one will love more. Are you willing to be the one who loves more or do you just want to be the one who is loved more? If you always want to be loved more, is that being selfish? Or is it that you haven’t met the right one yet?
Hi. I do not know anyone of you but i am currently at the darkest moment of my life. I just become single due to families against. His family refuses to respect my religious and my side is racist. I am totally sick with my family with their so-called love.
I am sitting on a sofa in a public library now as i dont want to go home early and have no place to go. My heart is bleeding now. Worst thing is that i have to see him everyday in work and act as normal.
My face has been washing by tears nonstopping for a few days. Everyone says i am pretty, smart with a PhD degree and with my outspoken personality i will not have issue in getting another man. But in reality man is afraid of me due to my overachievement.
I am just a simple woman that wants a man to love to cherish to build a family with me. I have found one who i see as my soulmate. Despite treating his family well, they still cannot accept me a non muslim. As for my side, they do not even want him to come to our house.
How can we be happy if we are not blessed by our families? Hence i initiated the breakup which he accepts it. I begged him to patch back but he insists no. I can see that he is tired. In fact he has been saying breakup many times whenever he feels the pressure. My friends say he actually wants to break up but feels gulity as i have been a good girlfriend.
No mood to eat. Staying in library while waiting for time to pass. Everything appears to be dark cold to me.
Is anyone out there please tell me why i am so jinx in relationship? My friend says my demand is very simple but why happy things do not come to me.
I empathize with your situation, and understand that this is what many other women are facing, like those articles that I read from magazines. I think you should know better how to handle your life, since you I can tell you are highly educated and modernized, down to earth woman. There will be guys who will love intelligent women and not feel inferior due to achievements. Look at Tay Ping Hui, he married an NUS lecturer! I still don’t think he is any less of a man.
I understand the feeling of a forbidden love, it hurts due to the circumstances, that you cannot be with the one you love. I am also dealing with the pain of longing, and it can be difficult to get through the day at times. It’s ok to mourn for a while, but it’s not worth wasting time brooding and be lost in misery. You wouldn’t want to get into depression, it would be even tougher to get out off.
There are many people out there looking for love, but due to work commitments and lifestyle, they are still unable to find love. There are many out there who wish to be loved by others, lonely, rejected, who have not even had a first relationship before. You are already fortunate enough to have found love and have spent time with him, although it is “forbidden” due to family reasons. You are not jinx in relationship, it is just difficult to find love nowadays.
There is other reasons to live for, to me, even if I cannot find my true love, my soul mate (touch wood! haha), I think living for a greater purpose, for a greater good, for God, is still the best way. =)
It seems that you have fallen in love but somehow holding back? Fate brings two person together. If you have met the right one, then it’s time to let go all your pride, arrogance, authority, centredness etc. Love will conquer all. Fight for your happiness before you have any regrets. Wishing you all the love you deserve. :) http://youtu.be/zlRd73ya6Xg
Hi cherry i appreciate yr thoughts. I do not know when i can overcome it. At this moment my saddness have become anger. I cannot bring myself in facing my family. I have to face him everyday in work. I just hope this is just a dream and when i wake up i am actually happily married.
Two very disappointed relationships…..first one is dumped by ex who has been treating me as an atm…..second one is due to families against. Will my third one be a lucky one and will he be my destined prince?
Currently i am like a cat licking its wound.
Will definitely let you know when i am back to normal. Maybe weeks….months…..i do not know. But i will make sure i will be ok again on 1st jan 2012…..the latest!
Thank you for your concern despite i am just a total stranger to you.
i hope im not too late. im sitting on a sofer in Paris, alone in the dark.. cold as well..without tears and heart by now i guess. plus worst still no phd leh………! well, never mind about me.
so, lets come to you. i had gone through that same thing like you i guess 5 years ago. you know you are very lucky.. on the right track.. it not about race.. or what you believe.. plus most of all your family loves you rot and want to safe you from even much more harm than you can ever imagin or i’ll say fore see it. you’ll thank them in future. if it mean to be it will be.
his a good man.. he loves you to tell you NO. it sure not that he pity you or that his stress.. well partly but it not that. and please dont fall in love alittle by reading this..
you blame your family and you blame his. lets say without the two family. i’ll ask you and you answer frankly..
CAN YOU TURN INTO MUSLIM? ii even know the place to do that if you want it. so, if you take 1 sec to think, i take it as NO.
the pain you are having now.. is nothing.. zero.. compare to after you’ve fight all the way and tried your head out.. making family who loves you stay in pain for as long as your in it. cut the pain short my dear. i know you had put your heart in. we’re not robots.. tell you to switch off just like that also not possible.. tell you to think logically also not possible.
i’ll suggest the first thing you do is quit that company and please remember.. dont ever fall in love with people you work together with or take the risk.
i understand how you are to long for love. without love, life is colourless. lossing yourself is even much more colourless than you ever can think of. trust me with it. love is within ourself. pain is bcoz you dont love yourself and your soul is hurt. if you let all your love out to another person.. dont you think it plays all on the person and the condition? isn’t it just too risky? please do not long for love this way. it a danger. love yourself very much and so others can love you about it. plus, man either see woman who are long for others love as clingy or can easily taken advantage on as it your beautiful and nice point but also your own weak point. lastly, it not about phd at all that they do this to you.
i just speak sincerely and straight. i hope it helps you than making you angry in anyway. do not blame.. do not pain.. or long for love.. be yourself, love yourself.. when you are a loveable self.. he will be there without you expacting.
so when im back we shell meet up for coffee or some drinks. hahaha.. paris style.. ok?
bon, now i go to go into my dreams and wake up with my pain the next morning..
you will find that girl who will be willing to put you at the top of her world, who loves you enough to know that love is about giving, giving of oneself to the other completely. love is about giving up, giving up one’s rights for the other.
idk either
愛只有簡單筆畫卻比想像複雜
if its abt bgr then my opinion below.
that bcos u have not yet met the Right one. the true love… love itself isnt complicated but its the people who is complicated…
How come suddenly so emo? LoL
爱是无止尽的付出，却不要求回报。但真正做得到的有几个？
theres love within everyone and everyone knows how to love. even pigeons on my root does.
to love someone you actually surrender your love to her.
the first thing is you got to love yourself before you can give love.
or we should say it the other way.. then your other could let herself love you. fall in love? people cant fall into love but surrender themself to love.
it is not that someone having all the pride, arrogance, authority, and centredness means do not know how to love. they just actually didnt love. their love is still within them. you know.. they just got to meet someone that they could surrender themself with.
when you love, you lost part of yourself.. and you know where it goes to.. ;)
I agree.. When anything comes abit too much.. We might not know how to really love..
come to realise it too…
Everyone has their own definitions of love. Being able to love or to be love is a feeling that one would love to have. It doesn’t only applies to human but also living things. Who doesn’t want to be love or to love others? I agree with Elvin’s post. Loving a person is totally committing oneself to him/her. Love might be a feeling that drives one to be a totally different person which you might have never known. Over loving a person might also leads to over protecting one to the extend of him/her getting easily irritated at the things that you do for them . So what really is best for humans!? To love or to be love?
爱不求回报，
真爱一个人只要他幸福就已经很足够了，不是？
加油啦～～你会找到你的真爱的～～～^^
Love don”t have to be complicated,it”s about the feeling between the two people who are meant to be.
The right person will understand and want you.
Love supposed to be simple and sweet,truly like a person,you wouldn”t even think about being arrogant or having the pride,intead you will protect and care for the one for the rest of your life.
I want to be with the one who will make my first love lasts…
To me, love somebody do not need reasons or characteristics…I wanna be with somebody who i feel blissful and happiness with him
I do not need him to be rich,handsome or cool:p
I just want him to be truthful,faithful and nice to me…
Tats is just wat i ask for for my love:]
True love closes the gap of imperfectness………
You are amazing…… Just the way you are……..
http://m.youtube.com/index?desktop_uri=%2F&gl=KR#/watch?v=UgpssdgwDCg
At least u’re aware of the shortcomings. Those who refused to admit their pride, arrogance, authority, and centredness are then not know how to love.
:)
just know that there is always someone there willing to make you the centre of their lives
爱是恒久忍耐，又有恩慈，爱是不嫉妒，爱是不自夸，不张狂，不作害羞的事，不求自己的益处，不轻易发怒，不计算人的恶，不喜欢不义，只喜欢真理，凡是包容，凡是相信，凡是盼望，凡是忍耐，爱是永不止息。加油吧！俊雄
无论何种原因, 那个没有踏前一步, 愿意与你同甘共苦的人, 都不会是你的 Ms Right.
不需要虚构爱情故事, 只要看看我们的周围, 真爱时时发生在我们身边. 也会自然而然发生在你的身上.
你还是要带一双慧眼, 去发掘 认识你的那个她.
百折不挠的你, 没有什么不能成为可能.
You can choose to love someone who loves you more than you love her. Or you can choose to love someone whom you love more than she loves you. Even if both love deeply, one will love more. Are you willing to be the one who loves more or do you just want to be the one who is loved more? If you always want to be loved more, is that being selfish? Or is it that you haven’t met the right one yet?
Hi. I do not know anyone of you but i am currently at the darkest moment of my life. I just become single due to families against. His family refuses to respect my religious and my side is racist. I am totally sick with my family with their so-called love.
I am sitting on a sofa in a public library now as i dont want to go home early and have no place to go. My heart is bleeding now. Worst thing is that i have to see him everyday in work and act as normal.
My face has been washing by tears nonstopping for a few days. Everyone says i am pretty, smart with a PhD degree and with my outspoken personality i will not have issue in getting another man. But in reality man is afraid of me due to my overachievement.
I am just a simple woman that wants a man to love to cherish to build a family with me. I have found one who i see as my soulmate. Despite treating his family well, they still cannot accept me a non muslim. As for my side, they do not even want him to come to our house.
How can we be happy if we are not blessed by our families? Hence i initiated the breakup which he accepts it. I begged him to patch back but he insists no. I can see that he is tired. In fact he has been saying breakup many times whenever he feels the pressure. My friends say he actually wants to break up but feels gulity as i have been a good girlfriend.
No mood to eat. Staying in library while waiting for time to pass. Everything appears to be dark cold to me.
Is anyone out there please tell me why i am so jinx in relationship? My friend says my demand is very simple but why happy things do not come to me.
10July 2011- dark cold.
Hi Theresa,
I empathize with your situation, and understand that this is what many other women are facing, like those articles that I read from magazines. I think you should know better how to handle your life, since you I can tell you are highly educated and modernized, down to earth woman. There will be guys who will love intelligent women and not feel inferior due to achievements. Look at Tay Ping Hui, he married an NUS lecturer! I still don’t think he is any less of a man.
I understand the feeling of a forbidden love, it hurts due to the circumstances, that you cannot be with the one you love. I am also dealing with the pain of longing, and it can be difficult to get through the day at times. It’s ok to mourn for a while, but it’s not worth wasting time brooding and be lost in misery. You wouldn’t want to get into depression, it would be even tougher to get out off.
There are many people out there looking for love, but due to work commitments and lifestyle, they are still unable to find love. There are many out there who wish to be loved by others, lonely, rejected, who have not even had a first relationship before. You are already fortunate enough to have found love and have spent time with him, although it is “forbidden” due to family reasons. You are not jinx in relationship, it is just difficult to find love nowadays.
There is other reasons to live for, to me, even if I cannot find my true love, my soul mate (touch wood! haha), I think living for a greater purpose, for a greater good, for God, is still the best way. =)
Hope this comment is of help to you. =)
A song to share…=)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fVHhoWECVvE
It seems that you have fallen in love but somehow holding back? Fate brings two person together. If you have met the right one, then it’s time to let go all your pride, arrogance, authority, centredness etc. Love will conquer all. Fight for your happiness before you have any regrets. Wishing you all the love you deserve. :)
http://youtu.be/zlRd73ya6Xg
Hi cherry i appreciate yr thoughts. I do not know when i can overcome it. At this moment my saddness have become anger. I cannot bring myself in facing my family. I have to face him everyday in work. I just hope this is just a dream and when i wake up i am actually happily married.
Two very disappointed relationships…..first one is dumped by ex who has been treating me as an atm…..second one is due to families against. Will my third one be a lucky one and will he be my destined prince?
Currently i am like a cat licking its wound.
Will definitely let you know when i am back to normal. Maybe weeks….months…..i do not know. But i will make sure i will be ok again on 1st jan 2012…..the latest!
Thank you for your concern despite i am just a total stranger to you.
Hi Theresa, just know that nobody want to face an unhappy situation without choice. It is unhealthy to hold onto anger.
You have tried your best to love him, so no regrets. You deserve some peace.
I believe you will find peace soon. Leave your burdens unto God through prayer, he may turn the situation around.
=) get well (happy) soon.
Hi Theresa,
Do not be upset. I am sure you will be able to find someone who will love and cherish you.
snail
hi theresa,
i hope im not too late. im sitting on a sofer in Paris, alone in the dark.. cold as well..without tears and heart by now i guess. plus worst still no phd leh………! well, never mind about me.
so, lets come to you. i had gone through that same thing like you i guess 5 years ago. you know you are very lucky.. on the right track.. it not about race.. or what you believe.. plus most of all your family loves you rot and want to safe you from even much more harm than you can ever imagin or i’ll say fore see it. you’ll thank them in future. if it mean to be it will be.
his a good man.. he loves you to tell you NO. it sure not that he pity you or that his stress.. well partly but it not that. and please dont fall in love alittle by reading this..
you blame your family and you blame his. lets say without the two family. i’ll ask you and you answer frankly..
CAN YOU TURN INTO MUSLIM? ii even know the place to do that if you want it. so, if you take 1 sec to think, i take it as NO.
the pain you are having now.. is nothing.. zero.. compare to after you’ve fight all the way and tried your head out.. making family who loves you stay in pain for as long as your in it. cut the pain short my dear. i know you had put your heart in. we’re not robots.. tell you to switch off just like that also not possible.. tell you to think logically also not possible.
i’ll suggest the first thing you do is quit that company and please remember.. dont ever fall in love with people you work together with or take the risk.
i understand how you are to long for love. without love, life is colourless. lossing yourself is even much more colourless than you ever can think of. trust me with it. love is within ourself. pain is bcoz you dont love yourself and your soul is hurt. if you let all your love out to another person.. dont you think it plays all on the person and the condition? isn’t it just too risky? please do not long for love this way. it a danger. love yourself very much and so others can love you about it. plus, man either see woman who are long for others love as clingy or can easily taken advantage on as it your beautiful and nice point but also your own weak point. lastly, it not about phd at all that they do this to you.
i just speak sincerely and straight. i hope it helps you than making you angry in anyway. do not blame.. do not pain.. or long for love.. be yourself, love yourself.. when you are a loveable self.. he will be there without you expacting.
so when im back we shell meet up for coffee or some drinks. hahaha.. paris style.. ok?
bon, now i go to go into my dreams and wake up with my pain the next morning..
from Paris cold cold sofer. ha!
plus elvin.. i erase whatever i wrote to you on top. i’ve learn a step higher again i guess.. love.. is an endless topic.
我不是” 千呼万唤始出来 ” 那种类型. 我不会容忍自己这样做.
我看到大家真心地帮助别人, 我看到 ” 真 善 美 “.
这在我未来的人生路, 是一笔不可估量的宝贵财富.
原来 存活 是这样艰难的一件事.
” 荆棘 险阻 勇敢 前进 “, 我们面对的不仅仅是字面上的涵义.
共勉吧!
you will find that girl who will be willing to put you at the top of her world, who loves you enough to know that love is about giving, giving of oneself to the other completely. love is about giving up, giving up one’s rights for the other.
awwwwwww super true! i love it!
Where is the love (The love)
Where is the love (The love)
Where is the love
The love, the love………………………..
有时候，真的很想爱。但总是找不到合适的。经过几段感情，越来越挑，总是看不到最好的。。。。。这样日子旧了，慢慢爱上了“单身”。
在过去感情，也让自己进化成更好的人，所以对别人的要求更高。
其实，我并不是那么的喜欢单独。时刻都盼着他的出现。。。。。。我真的很想去爱和被爱。
Love got criteria one meh?
Love that song babyelvin ..by the black eye pea..haha..true..