an empty space, a glowing one
May 17, 2012it’s nearly 100 days now
his passing has left an empty space
how much has moved on
how much has not
i’m not so sure
you never know what life throws at you
sometimes it’s just haphazard
not always in your control
there are plans and there are surprises
you have to deal with it, make the best of it
at your own time, in your own way
accept it, embrace it if you can
“float like a cannonball”
heavy but feel light
there’s substance but also buoyancy
make yourself float, suspend in the air
come down when you need to
he was full of life, happy, humorous, and well-loved
this is what he’s left behind for us
when all’s gone, perhaps what one leaves behind is a legacy
footsteps to follow
and it’s with his spirit
that helps to ignite this empty space
in the heart
set it aglow
lead us forward
when five fingers on a palm become four
the four find unity and inner strength to become
stronger even
empty spaces here and there
or a huge empty space in fact
but it’s a glowing one
light shines through
and it is with this empty space
that allows us to be filled again
to grow
to move forward
litted
“You can shed tears that he is gone, or you can smile because he has lived. You can close your eyes and pray that he’ll come back, or you can open your eyes and see all he’s left. Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him, or you can be full of the love you shared. You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday, or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday. You can remember him only that he is gone, or you can cherish his memory and let it live on. You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back. Or you can do what he’d want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.”
Life is not always what one wants it to be, but to make the best of it. :)
There are always ups and down in life. It is to whether to let it rule you or you rule it. Said easier than done. The moment when unhappiness really come and visit us, we might won’t know how to react on it. But no matter what, everything will come to a breakeven point, and when we reach it, pls turn around and keep those memories in our deepest corner of our heart and carry on to move forward.
I like the way u describe the five finger on a palm become four. But do u ever think that some doesn’t even have five fingers initially. They are still living with it and their strength are even stronger.
Cherish the moments with your loved one and with the glowing empty space within you, I believe you can grow stronger with the other four fingers. And with these four fingers, you can even make the empty space even brighter. Wish you successful. Take care :)
adhere only with some empty space, we can grow.
The glow will stay however, forever.
Life is tough, if it doesn’t kill us, it shapes us, if it doesn’t break us, it made us.. May ur space be emptied and filled at the same time, with the most brilliant stuff =)
He may not be around, but I believe the time spent were memorable and the memories will always live in your heart. Continue to stay strong, and move on. When life go against us, dont frown and play the best out of it as much as possible. (: Takecares, stay happy and all da best!
You are your father’s legacy ~ G
Oh Im sorry about that. You made him proud by being in this industry. Continue to work hard! I am sure he is proud of you :) He is in a much better place right now! Takecare :)
He may no longer be around but he is always looking out for you. You are his pride. Stay strong, take care and keep on striving on.
Hello ^^ .
Hii :) don be sad !^^ cheer up
Elvin, we hear you and we feel your pain. Well, life is such and we have to truly cherish every moment and make the best of it – always cherish yourself and your loved ones. In life, when pain comes our way we embrace it, but then we must let it go. When we do not, we make the loss much bigger then it really is and we give up what we would have gained by trusting God to take us thru our suffering. Its good that you are not afraid to share with us your inner emotions as laughing & crying makes you feel better and stronger. Please stay strong for your mom, your siblings and us – Your dedicated Elves! We want to see you grow from strength to strength in your acting career and we will be there for you till eternity !!!! Elvin 万岁！我们永远支持你！加油Elvin !
Stop emo-ing. You are your dad’s best present :)
Elvin, pls move on…i am sure your Dad wherever he is now, would not want to see you so upset, so please be happy for your Dad, think positive, live positive and stay positive for his sake =)
Family members matter to each one of us in different ways. I know you are close to your dad and you love him. Parents cannot be with us on earth forever, everyone knows that.
It is difficult to accept it at first, it’s how you remember him, his good natured and upright character. You said that you wanted to carry on his legacy, that his spirit carries on.
Do you believe in afterlife? Maybe he is somewhere better. Always hope for the best of everything.
I believe in the afterlife because of God’s promises.
Life is not much “Much Ado about Nothing” nor “Love’s Labour’s Lost”.
There are many things can’t be predictable in this world.. Those are out of our control and things that we can do is just accept it.. We may be sad,but after those sadness we must stand up and face those stuff by the strong and tough heart.. All the best to you and hopefully be happy and cheerful!!
Life as it is, precious as it may be.
Once one breathes one last breath all in a lifetime is past.
Life as it is, precious as it may be.
Once is how long a lifetime there is.
Life as it, precious as it may be.
Once is all that we need us to show them the dear one’s around us and they will know we treasure them when they are around.
Life as it is, precious it may be.
Once alive and once dead that’s all we have.
Life as it is, precious it may be
Come there may be.
Go there may be.
Laughter may come.
Tears may flow.
Memories there are and never will go.
Reminiscence is all that’s left….
Take heart and never let the past consume all of whatever there is =)
My prayers are with you and your family. Be strong, Elvin!
Letting go is very painful.We learn and that makes us stronger!
Don”t be sad Elvin,your daddy spirit will always be with you,the glow will never disappeared…
Even when your dad isn’t physically with you, he will always remain in your heart. The memories you have with him can never be deleted or taken away. Be strong… and SMILE ^^
Elvin, don’t worry when the bad goes the good things come so cheerup! Look forward to the future:) We always say ” If only…” why not change it to ” Next Time”? Things will go better that way. :) Okay? God Bless!
Hey Elvin! Cheerup! Move on, better things awaits you in the future! :D
♥ ♥ ♥ Dear God:
The Man reading this is handsome, classy and strong. Help him live his life to the fullest. Please promote him and cause him to excel above his expectations. Help him shine in the darkest places where it is impossible to love. Protect him at all times, lift him up when he needs you the most, and let him know when he walks with you, he will always be safe. Amen.
Support you, Elvin Ng! Take care:)
cherish life :) smile okay ting ting
Don’t be… sad.. Elvin… i know.. how you feel.. its terrible, i know.. cheer up :)
Hi Elvin,
My mom once shared that when one is alive and if we have done all we could to present the best for him/her, then we need not shed a single drop of tear when he/she leaves us. I may not know how that exactly feel because in my memory, I could only recall the countless bucket of tears that i once shed when my grandpa passed on. And now, looking at my grandma’s health slowly deteriorating, I could only stay strong to provide the best for her. Be sure to create more memories when our loved ones are still around. You are definitely one blessed soul because your dad has given the best that he could to bring you thus far. Continue to live his spirit and spread his love.
Best Regards,
Axetee
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RTUwaCImChM&feature=youtube_gdata_player
我爸最近因癌症过世了。因为在国外念书我赶不及见他最后一面。我，明白你的心情。
这首歌，一路好走
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0XwYuqj7BrQ
给所有 想念的 先走的人。
Stay strong! That’s life..
You should get a twitter. Really.
Oh, Elvin. Keep writing. It’s very cathartic. I wish you all the best. You’re very blessed. xxxxx
hi elvin, all the best for the future and im sure your dad would hv been proud to have a son like u!
Life is full of unexpected occurrences. We are all only pieces in a game of chess, puppets of a puppet master and pawns of heaven. We cannot change fact. We cannot change life. But one thing for sure, even if there’s such a thing called ‘destiny’, we can change our attitudes towards it. Let’s embrace the future and look forward to endless possibilities. Let us remember what your dad left you, his smiles, his tears, his greatness. Let’s look forward to every tomorrow.
Live with pleasant memories of him. After all, he would definitely love to see you smile, laugh and be happy.
Carry on. Let his legacy live with you forever.
xx
虽然你的父亲已不在了，你依然还有你伟大的母亲。我们虽然不能改变发生了的事，但是，如果能够学会感恩一切事吴的好与坏，那我们的人生价值观会变得豁达！我相信你一定能够把事业，照顾年迈的母亲/家人和你想要做的东西兼顾的很好！加油！！！！！！！！！
Understand how u feel as I’ve ever faced the same situation as u. Don’t feel so sad as u’ve spent time with him when he’s around. Keep those good memories with him in your heart and treasure that!
It is a wonderful thing to have beautiful memories of loved ones who have passed on and we should always treasure them. But more importantly, treasure what you have now especially loved ones who are around you now like you mum and other siblings.
This is one of the rare moments where I visit MSN’s homepage and chance upon the title of your entry. It reminds me of the time when I first lost a loved one. Here’s something I wrote years back – thought to share with you…the ache dulls but person never forgotten. Chin up!
You left too suddenly,
You left too fast.
Spending time together,
Has become a thing of the past.
I know you love us,
We love you very much too.
You will watch over us,
I believe it’s true.
You’ll never be faraway,
Always living in our hearts.
Always present in spirit,
Blessing & guiding us in our path.
*Hugs*
I hope you will feel the strength and love from the many people who care about you and your family.
加油!!
Hi Elvin,
What do you think of the City harvest Church debacle?
BTW, are you a member of the church?
death end a life but not a relationship
amituofo blessing to u
http://42concepts.com/art/true-love/
A very cute comic. =)
Hi, does anyone know which episode is elvin in for BATTLE @ WATER MARGIN ? I can’t find it at xinmsn. Thank you! :)
the wound can scream the pain but not let your heart.
maybe one day when you are a father.. he lives once again. So moving forward to meet him is important. =)
Hey Elvin. How are you? :) Do update your blog more often alright? Looking forward to your new entries soon.
xoxo, <3